We Cant Heal What We Don’t Feel

There is a common misconception in the world of self help and spirituality that we are supposed to be happy, positive, mindful and thriving, all the time. 

We equate feelings of happiness, love, joy, motivation and passion with success,
and feelings of sadness, anger, hurt or disappointment with failure.

As human beings we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. We have adopted the belief that feelings are either good or bad, and connect how we feel with either our successes, or setbacks. In truth, there are no good or bad feelings, there are just feelings. A feeling only becomes negative when it is suppressed, denied the right of expression, or believed as being so. 

When things are going well, we are so quick to express it. We are fuelled by our egos, and when we feel good, we want others to know it. And yet, when we feel bad, we immediately put up a guard. Our egos try to protect us from feelings of hurt,  judgement, or shame. We use so much of our energy trying to deny our negative emotions; pulling our focus away from them, rather than embracing, accepting and releasing them. 

It is okay to have ‘negative’ emotions. We are human beings, having a human experience, living in an ever changing and high pressure society.
Yes, practise self-care and mindfulness, establish healthy habits and routines, and rely on any practises that can help you to cultivate a sense of happiness and wellbeing, but don’t accept that you are a ‘failure’ if you have days where you let these practises slip. Don’t believe that you are inferior for a having a normal response or reaction to an internal or external stimuli. 

it is normal for our emotions to ebb and flow. And while yes, we are responsible for how we choose to respond to triggers and stimuli, the reality of the situation is, we are human. There are going to be days when we feel down, flat, unmotivated, upset, or anxious. Our lives can change in a moment; we could experience a loss, or a trauma, a diagnosis, or a disappointment. Or we could simply just be having an off day.

And that’s okay.

Where we can begin to go wrong with our emotions however, is by suppressing them, and accepting the belief that our negative emotions equate failure, shame, or inferiority.

Feeling sad, angry, impatient, hurt, scared or upset, is JUST as important as feeling happy, excited, motivated and loved.

Our emotions serve us. 

Don’t run from them, don’t fight them.

Face them, and invite them in.

Remember, it is what stays inside of us, that makes us ill.
When we fail to express our emotions, our brain signals a stress response and we enter into a state of ‘flight-or-fight’ mode. Our body uses energy needed elsewhere in our bodies, such as our immune and digestive systems, to deal with the perceived threat that it believes we are experiencing. Our body responds in this state of stress by increasing our blood pressure and heart rate, causing feelings of anxiety and depression, and supresses our immune system leaving us susseptable to illness and disease.

“The opposite of depression, is expression” – Edith Eger

So how can we healthily express our emotions?

Recognise them. Accept them. And Express them.

Recognise what it is you are feeling, feel it, and accept it.
You can even delay your response to your feeling, just remember not to let it go unchecked. For example, if somebody does something that makes you angry or upset in a social situation, it might not be the ideal or appropriate time to start yelling and screaming.

You can say to yourself, “I am feeling angry right now, and that is okay. I accept this feeling, it is a normal response, and I am deciding to sit with it right now.”

Or, let it out! Its okay.

Cry, shout, scream, punch a pillow, throw yourself a pity party!

Just don’t stay there!

That is the key.

Expressing our emotions is a release. And when we release the feelings, we can be free of them. We don’t need to remain imprisoned by our emotions. We don’t need to be bogged down by our own high standards of what we think should and shouldn’t be feeling. Just feel it. Really feel it. Accept it. And let it go.

When we don’t accept, feel, express or release our negative emotions, they begin to take root and become embedded in our being, our subconscious, and our beliefs.

The quicker that we are able to recognise our sadness, fear, anger, or any other low feeling emotion, the quicker can acccpt it, express it, release it, and replace it with higher feeling energies and vibrations that are in alignment with our true selves.

Remember, life is a balance. Take the good with the bad, and be kind to yourself. Stop striving for perfection, and strive for being human.

Conquer Your Morning, Conquer Your Life

“Focused productive successful mornings generate focused productive successful days – which inevitably create a successful life” – Hal Elrod

If you are looking to alter the trajectory of your life, become happier, more productive, less stressed, more pro-active, and less re-active, than you need to create and commit to a tailored and consistent Morning Routine.

Each day we are presented with a new opportunity for living; a clean slate, and we get to decide what we will do with it. We each get to choose who we want to be, how we want to show up, what we want to give, and what we want to experience.

The results that we experience in our current reality are largely shaped by our everyday habits and routines. A routine is simply a set of actions performed regularly. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that all routines are “good” routines, or even conscious; they are simply performed out of habit.

We can choose to use our mornings to help us cultivate growth and success, or we can remain stuck in stagnation. So many of us leave our days to chance, giving no intentional thought or creation to our day. We tend to live life on ‘auto-pilot’ allowing our mood, conditions and outer circumstances to dictate the course of our day. We give away our power and let our day control us, as opposed to us controlling our day.

Creating an intentional morning practise allows us to take back the power of our day, and in turn, our lives. It gives us a sense of purpose, direction and accountability. We can go from unconsciously creating to deliberately creating, enabling us to make decisions that are aligned with our goals and desires.

A morning routine sets us up for our day, allows us to set and align with our intentions, increase focus and productivity, boost our mood, increase positivity, reduces stress, and enable us to be better equipped to handle any stresses and situations that may arise.

There is no one size fits all when it comes to morning routines. They will, and should, look different from person to person. Remember, the best morning routine is one that is tailored to suit you. If a practise feels forced, or like a chore, you will find it hard to commit too. Your morning routine should feel authentic and real for you. It should make you want to jump out of bed in the morning, with a sense of drive, purpose and motivation.

Morning Routine Tips and Practises to Conquer Your Day


Mediation quiets the mind and allows us to control the direction of our thoughts. It allows us to focus more clearly on our intentions, promotes mental health, compassion, gratefulness and wellbeing, while reducing the feelings of stress and anxiety. It allows us to tune out distractions and return our true selves.


Visualising our goals increases the likeliness of achieving them. By clearly visualising what it is that we want to achieve, and feeling the feelings of having it now, we signal to our brain to begin working towards making our vision concrete in reality. As our brains cannot distinguish between what is real and what is imagined, it subconsciously works to bring about what is it that we are holding in our vision, and in our vibration, on a consistent basis.


My personal favourite and a non-negotiable in my morning practise. There are so many different types and techniques for journaling, though it is essentially the act of getting out our thoughts, feelings, and intentions, goals and/or to-do lists onto paper. It allows us to de-clutter the mind and free up space for the things that serve us.


Practising gratitude in the morning is one of the best ways to cultivate joy and a positive mind set for the day. Expressing gratitude can be done through thought, verbally, or ideally written down in a journal. Cultivating gratitude is one of the best ways to raise your vibration and live more joyfully. Expressing gratitude is a morning practise that I simply cannot go a day without!


Affirmations are uplifting and positive statements that help us to generate confidence and help us to overcome and challenge our limiting beliefs and negative thoughts. By consistently repeating affirmations or mantras, or brain literally re-wires itself and begins accepting these affirmations as fact, which is then reflected into our life experience.


Moving your body in your morning can help bring about an improved mood as a result of the release of endorphins that exercise causes. It also brings about a sense of accomplishment, getting it completed first thing, instead of spending the day dreading the ‘after work’ work out. It helps us to feel productive and more energised for the day

Read, Listen and Educate

Set aside some time in the morning dedicated to expanding your knowledge and encouraging growth motivation and inspiration. Listen to a podcast, spend some time reading, or listen to an audiobook. Use this time to really focus on your personal growth and self-reflection.

Extra steps for creating a productive and positive morning can include:

Eating a healthy breakfast

Waking up earlier and avoiding the snooze button

Making your bed as soon as you get up

Turning off social media and the news, and remaining present

Practising mindfulness

Getting outdoors, grounding and connecting with nature

Petting your dog (because duh!)

Your morning routine can be as extensive or as simple as you like. It can take as little as 10 minutes or as much as an hour. There is no perfect routine, only the one that feels perfect for you.

Your morning practise should leave you feeling uplifted, focused, calm, grounded and ready to conquer your day with a confident, positive and abundant mindset.

How you show up for your morning, is how you show up for your day, and ultimately how you show up for life. Give as much time and love to yourself as you give to others, and watch your life transform.

Remember, if you win your morning, you win your day, and when you win your days, you win your life.

To learn more about Habits and Routines don’t forget to check out my post: Why Habits and Routines Are Essential For Success.